I don't want to give away too many of the details but I will share a recipe I am going to make for the party (because the mother-to-be is as big a cheese grits fan as I am!). Will post a recap with lots of photos after the event!
Cheddar Cheese Grits Casserole
adapted from MyRecipe.com
8 cups milk, divided
1 Tablespoon salt
2 cups uncooked stone-ground white grits
1 cup unsalted butter
4 large eggs, lightly beaten
2 teaspoons dried dill, thyme, or sage or a combination of the three (or 2 Tablespoons chopped fresh herbs)
2 cups (8 ounces) shredded Cheddar, Gruyère, or Swiss cheese or a combination of the three, divided
Preheat oven to 350.
Combine 6 cups milk and salt in a large, heavy saucepan; cook over medium-high heat just until milk starts to boil. Gradually whisk in grits and butter. Reduce heat; simmer, uncovered 20 to 25 minutes or until thick, stirring often.
Remove grits from heat; add remaining 2 cups milk, stirring to cool grits mixture. Stir in eggs, herbs, and 1 cup cheese. Pour grits mixture into a lightly greased 15" x 10" baking dish; top with remaining 1 cup cheese. Bake, uncovered, at 350 for 45 minutes or until bubbly.
Recipe comes from Mrs. Patsy Riley, First Lady of the State of Alabama